Jan 24, 2020
In business having good friends is far more about the good things than the bad ones.
Friends who are close enough to know your most intimate struggles can rejoice with you in the victories you win, give you a form of motivation or improve your ability to make decisions.
At this very moment, who do you have around that's helping you to succeed and tells you if you’re on the right path or not?
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Dean Soto 0:00
Hey, this is Dean Soto founder of freedom in five minutes.com and Pro Sulum.com, P-R-O-S-U-L-U-M.com and we're here again with another freedom in five minutes podcast episode. Today's topic is this, the best accountability in business is having good friends. That more coming up.
Oh! Good morning. It is a nice chilly morning here in Southern or Southern Central California. Anyway, it is a definitely a chilly morning out here with the Luna Meister just having fun. She's off gallivanting around, don't even see her anymore. She's probably chasing some cougars or mountain lions or bobcats or something. And just keep them away from me Luna. Just keep them away from me, Luna. That’s all I care about.
So, I had two interesting things happened this week that were both related to this subject. In the beginning of the week, so every morning on Monday, I have a call with some really, really good, close friends who are also in business, who I’ve, who we've had, we've shared a lot of experiences with. And they're constantly pushing each other to hit the next level of our game. Like it's, it's really cool because so we'll hop on, hop on a zoom, share a bunch of things, and start keeping each other accountable to what we say we're going to do for the week. And this has been going on for us several, several months now. And it's been a game changer.
So, one of the things that I said I was going to do is I was going to create a four video, I was going to create a four video series. It was going to be a course on, on some of the things that I that I know and I love and I trust and I and I preach when it comes to systemizing and automating a business. And, and I had been putting it off for quite some time. I actually had the content made, then putting it off for quite some time, but it, it just didn't build a ClickFunnels, funnel for it. And the reason being is because I'm not good enough, like who's gonna want to listen to this crap, right? Who's gonna want to listen to, to anything that I do? I don't know why, I don't know why. But I always think and sometimes it's true. I'm guessing sometimes it's true or sometimes it's not true, but I'm always like, well, nobody's gonna find this valuable. Nobody's gonna like this, nobody's gonna you know, I'm gonna put it out there and people are going to just say, yeah it's all right. Or as and so why do it, right? Why put it out there? Why put my, why make myself vulnerable like that right? Why make myself vulnerable to feel that pain and but here's the deal is that is that they don't care. My friends don't care. They're like you said you're going to do it, do it. See what happens. And so this week, so far so good 90% done if not 95% done. And they literally do not care. Like why, why would they care if, if I put it out there or not? They, they I mean they care. They care from that but they don't care. Even, that if it does bad. They do care if it does good but if it doesn't, if it does bad, it's like okay, there's data. It’s awesome. And, and had it not been for them, the damn thing would not have gotten done. It would have, it would have been totally, it would have been totally put on the back burner yet again, yet again, yet again. Yet again. Yet again. Yet again, yet again, yet, again, month after month, possibly year after year, right? Rather than just pushing through completing it letting people be the judge, right?
And so the same thing happened with the book that I'm writing, the freedom in five minutes book. So I had already, I already have a book out there called Leverage and I had published it on Amazon. And so I was talking with my buddy Devin, who's, who's absolutely amazing. Just we always love, I love talking with him. He's actually been on the podcast in the, in the past. But he, he's always doing something, always building, always experimenting, always doing a whole bunch of different things. And, and the cool thing is that he, he. So I, I told him that I was, I was just about done writing this book. I'd written, I had written most of the content probably around, it’s, it's close to 20,000 words, I even have more content. And so I said to him, so I should step back. Actually, I had already even paid somebody to help me edit it. A good, a good amount of it. Who is, and so Tara, she, she's awesome, by the way, Tara Pasha. If you google her. She has this really cool service where you can talk into the phone and she will not only transcribe, she'll also edit a copy at it so that you literally can just write a book in, in like an hour or two. It's pretty cool. So she did a huge amount in that as well. And so, but I'm I gave it I gave him all of the things that I had I had written. And I'm like, you know, it's not, it's kind of all over the place. It's not really in a cohesive, cohesive, it's just a jumble right now. There's a whole bunch of chapters, there's jumble here, there's a jumble here, there's a chapter there, you know. It just just when you read this, don't, don't judge me. Don't you judge me. But you, but, but you know, he wanted to see it, wanted to read it. See, see where it was at and everything like that. And that was, that was actually a couple of weeks ago, and, and so he, he reaches out to me and he's like, he's like, this book is really good. This is like, this is a book that I want to read. Like I actually, like as I got into it like I want, I wanted to read it. And, and I was like, what really? That's crazy. Are you serious? Is that, like it's, I, I thought it was gonna be crap. I thought it was gonna be like, not that great and, and, you know it was just gonna to be this, I don't know. I just didn't know what to think. I was, there's no way that I could write a decent book and, and he thought otherwise which was really, really, really cool. I and I really appreciated it and, and it's pushed me to finish actually editing it and put it out there in several ways.
And so, so what's the point of all this? What's the point of all this? You are your biggest critic. You are your biggest critic. And so am I. There's so many times when you discount the things that you are able to do, and you try to do things like everybody else. The minute that I try to be like someone else, it doesn't work. The minute I try to do things, the way that everyone else does, it doesn't work. And so when I, when I start doing things the way I want to, would I start saying, well, you know, we don't have to do this, this way. And everyone else is like, no, that's the way you always do it. That's the way you're supposed to do it. And I say no, 90% of the time, it goes well. Yet every single time I want to put something out there something out for the world to enjoy. Something out for the world to benefit from. What happens? I say people are going to not like this. People are going to discount it. People are going to say that yeah, this is, this is crap. Even though, even though I'm close to 40 years old, a young, 39 years old, man. Even though I'm that old, people are gonna think that this is done by some young punk who doesn't know what he's talking about. All of these self critical, this self critical thought comes from, not from my friends, not from my business. Okay, I had a call come in and I don't know if that positive or what anyway.
So, so all of this self critical thought. The biggest critic comes from me and it comes from you. And that's why it's so important to have people to bounce ideas off of. Because a mirror cannot look at itself without somebody holding up that mirror, right? You are the camera that's filming everything. The camera that's filming everything can't film itself unless you have somebody else. You need people to show you like a mirror, who you are. That's why God made us this way. With, to fellowship and to, to talk with one another and to have friends, to have business colleagues, to have business partners, to have a wife or husband, to have children. Because they show you who you are so that you can grow, that you can become better. And so you can stop being in the nasty habit of what do you think I'm going to say? Criticizing yourself. You are your worst critic. And the solution to you, as a critic is having other people around you who want you to succeed. So this week who do you have around you? Who do you have around you that's helping you to succeed that you can talk to on a regular basis to tell you, to tell you what works, what doesn't, what's, what, are you going on off the right, off the wrong, going on the wrong path? Are you going the right way? Who do you have that loves you? And who will do that for you? Who will do that for you?
Alright, so this Dean Soto freedom in five minutes.com, go check that out. And by the time this podcast out, you'll probably go to Pro Sulum.com and get the four video series course which I'm going to put as a little exit pop up. So if you go to Pro Sulum, and you, you mouse, put your mouse over the URL, as If you were trying to leave, which I don't know why you would ever want to do that, go up there and it'll give you the option. I'll have a little pop up that says, hey, get to systemize and automate your business in five minutes or less course from Pro Sulum.com, P-R-O-S-U-L-U-M.com. And I will also let you know when the book is out. Which should be coming out first quarter 2020. All right. Merry Christmas. Happy New Year, and we'll catch you on the next freedom in five minutes podcast episode.